An Attitude of Gratitude

To write an article for publication in the Old Town Crier requires that it be submitted about two weeks prior to publication. As I sit here and write my column for the January paper, Christmas is still several days away and the winter solstice will begin tomorrow evening. I’m trying to envision what sort of mood will prevail for many of us right on the heels of the holidays.

Many of us may be glad they are over. All the frenetic activity will have ceased and life can return to normal. Some of us may feel more let down with the passing of the holidays and all the excitement that they generate. Others of us may feel renewed with the chance to begin afresh in the new year.

Whatever the mood you may be feeling, embracing an attitude of gratitude will help you put life in perspective for the New Year. Hopefully, during the lull between the holidays, you had time to reflect and take stock of what’s really important in your life and to acknowledge that importance.

Many of us take our lives for granted and let the petty annoyances drive our moods rather than being grateful for all the many moments of beauty that present themselves everyday. From a Chinese perspective, allowing these petty annoyances to drive our emotions constricts the movement of qi in our bodies which can lead to imbalance. On the other hand, by embracing an attitude of gratitude where we can appreciate what life has to offer expands our qi and helps to maintain balance.

Here are a few suggestions that you may want to keep in mind to keep the qi flowing throughout the rest of the year.

Create a thank you list. We’re all accustomed to making lists in order to keep ourselves organized. Grocery lists, to do lists, Christmas card lists are necessities. Your most recent lists may have been your Christmas gift list. Why not add a new list to include a thank you list of everything you are grateful for by jotting down those things that bring you a sense of satisfaction and peace. When you’re feeling down you can pull out this list for an immediate spirit booster. The joy in life comes in segments of seconds, not hours, such as the beauty of a sunrise or the warmth of a child’s smile. In time, this list will be far longer than any of the more mundane lists to which we attach such importance.

Say thank you often. Unfortunately, most of us do not acknowledge all the efforts people make for us. A simple thank you goes a long way in human relations so say it in public, say in private, send a thank you email, write a thank you note, make a telephone call for the sole purpose of thanking someone.

Accept, acknowledge, and appreciate. Substitute these three “A’s”: accept acknowledge and appreciate for the three “C’s”: complaining, condemning, and criticizing. The three “A’s” will expand your shen, or spirit and will help to develop positive relationships with coworkers, friends and family members. The three “C’s” constrict shen which can lead to emotional imbalances if too frequently used.

Putting it all in perspective. I’d like to leave you with a quote from George Washington Carver –

“How far you go in your life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.”